Before we had Eloise, D and I had a date night every Friday. It was sacrosanct. Inviolate. Ok, except for the time that Death Cab for Cutie came to town…
When we married we wanted to ensure we kept ‘dating’ each other as it is a wonderful way to reconnect and have fun. It’s so easy to get caught up in the bustle of everyday life, but date night is a great remedy against that. We take turns organising them, and that has proved to be so much fun as we rack our brains (and the internet) trying to outdo each other.
Here’s some of the things we’ve done:
- Fish and chips on the beach
- Madness missions: you get in the car and flip a coin when you come to major intersections. Try it – you’ll discover strange, new worlds. Ok, ok, more like strange, new suburbs. Which you might never, ever want to see again. But if you are lucky, you might discover the best fish and chip shop in town (I’m looking at you, Plimmerton).
- Theme nights like French or Italian. Food, movies, D and I talking with terrible accents. You get the picture.
- Board games. We’re very competitive.
- Working through books on marriage to help our relationship be the best it can possibly be. I recommend Harville Hendrick’s ‘Getting the Love You Want‘. It’s not for the faint-hearted though, but oh-so worth dredging up any painful stuff you might have gone through in the past. A definite catalyst for ‘deep and meaningful’ conversations.
- We check-in with each other about how we think our marriage is going. Making time for those sorts of conversations is invaluable.
- Seeing shows and comedies at our favourite local theatre, BATS. BATS specialise in showing up-and-coming talent. I laughed until I nearly puked at ‘CSI:Wainui’. (For non-New Zealanders, that’s like saying CSI: Insert name of small, non-glamorous hick-town here.)
- Blobbing out watching movies because we-are-too-tired-to-do-anything-else. Despicable Me? Yes, please.
- Watching a tv series. Prison Break, 24, Spooks. Nothing says romance like action and explosions.
Since Eloise arrived our date nights depend on the availability of babysitters, otherwise we stay in. We’re fortunate that D’s Mum thinks date nights are super-important and offers to babysit often.
Last night was my turn, so we had a candlelit picnic on our living room floor.
D has made it through to the next round of interviews for the job he’s applied for, so I made him a sugar-free dessert to celebrate.
You can click on the link for the recipe, and make this oh-so-simple, healthy treat for yourself. The base is made with walnuts, cacao powder and a few dates, while the topping is frozen banana blended to smooth, creamy goodness. I would have taken a decent picture of it, but D devoured most of it before I could. Here’s the remnants:
Why not make your sweet thing a sweet thing?